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Cristian Teodorescu was the best husband, father, son and brother anyone could ever asked for. He accomplished so many things in a life cut short by an unforgiving cancer, however he wanted to be best known for his biggest accomplishments: that of a good father and a loving husband.
Cristian’s life began on July 14th 1964, in Bucharest Romania. His mother Anna and Father Valentin couldn’t be happier and prouder of their first born, a beautiful baby with green eyes, ready to start a life full of beauty, wander, mischief as well as struggles and hard times.
From an early age Cristian wanted to find out how fast he could run and swim, what were the next adventures he could go on, where was the tallest tree he could climb, how many times he could scrape his knees while running after a soccer ball or trying to compete with athletes bigger and more experienced than he was. Later on in life, he was a fierce competitor in tennis, a sport he loved and excelled in. All his tennis friends sorely miss him.
Nothing and nobody could stand in his way. He knew the consequences of taking chances beyond the boundaries that his parents established for him. He would disarm them with a joke or doing something so unexpected that, throughout the years, they let him be him, the Cristian that became a man of wander.
He grew up in a communist country with very strict political rules which for Cristian, a free spirit and someone that didn’t like authority, was very difficult to understand.
He had a brilliant mind, exceptional in math, physics, chemistry, and anything technical. School was very restricting for him; he couldn’t sit still and was daydreaming about the next adventure. He excelled at the things that interested him, everything else was not important. He used to joke about this all the time. When it came time to write his life story he said: forget about the grammar and my style of writing, I left those talents to my sisters Catalina and Daniela.
Cristian came to the US forty years ago. He went to the University of Tulsa OK and graduated with a degree in electrical engineering and later finished his master’s degree in computer science.
He didn’t have an easy life; struggling to find full-time work to pay for his college, dealing with prejudices and many hardships and remaining positive through all of it.
Same as with all the immigrants who have an accent and try to find their first job, this was no different for him at that time. However, after the first job, companies started to notice him and so it began: accomplishing incredible things for many companies who needed someone as innovative as he was, with a brilliant mind and a thirst for knowledge. He always wanted to be challenged. You couldn’t say to him it’s not possible to develop this software with this budget or only with such a small team of developers. He would do it, many times paying the price of neglecting his health or personal life.
In 1994 he was introduced to the love of his life, Ana-Maria, the old-fashioned way. By the matchmaking of his aunt. Incredible that he took his aunt’s advice because he was known for doing his own thing all the time. Fortunately, he listened and that’s how it began, the happiest, most fulfilling part of his life.
They first connected with each other through letters, then baby pictures. Ana-Maria was still in Romania at that time. At the first meeting they knew it was love at first sight. It is a cliché, but for them it was the real thing. He proposed after four days, and the rest is history.
Eric, their first child, was born four years into the marriage and Ella four years after Eric.
Cristi said: We could not imagine we could love anyone more than our kids. Our only purpose became to make them happy. If they were happy, we were happy.
Ana-Maria and Cristian made an amazing couple: supportive of each other, loving, goal oriented and always together. She was his rock through all the surgeries, treatments, hospital stays, never wavering, never complaining.
And in typical Cristian fashion, his hospital room became an oasis for the oncology nurses. They would go there to hear him joking, trying to put everyone at ease, confident that all is well. It’s very difficult working in an environment with so much pain and suffering and for them this was a welcome reprieve.
He was surrounded by love until the last moment, and he said:
“God has blessed me with a very good life. I am surrounded by people I love and who love me. Thank you, God.”
He wrote his life story as an inspiration for his kids as they embarked in their life’s journey and dedicated it to his wife and to Eric and Ella. It started with the quote:” A wise person follows the path through time immemorial learning from other’s mistakes.” The best advice from a father who made mistakes and to let them know it’s OK to do so as long as you learn from them.
On January 25th, 2024, Cristian Teodorescu shed his earthly pain and made a graceful exit, surrounded by his loved ones. He will be missed by his family and friends, and he will always be a reminder to all of us who knew him, to live life to the fullest: laugh, joke, have empathy for each other, do good and always love your family. He left this legacy to all of us.
Today and forever he flies free.
Cristian was preceded in death by his brother, Mihai. He is survived by his loving wife Ana- Maria, his children Eric and Ella, his father Valentin, mother Anna, sisters Catalina (Alex) and Daniela.